Don’t drink and drive; you might cost someone their life or loose yours!!!
I was opportuned to attend a VIP class (Victim Impact Panel) hosted by MADD (Mothers against Drunk Driving). They had three major speakers. These are their stories! You don’t want to be in their position; it brought tears to the eyes of their audience.
Dylan: About 60 years old… Caucasian male…
He started with telling us about his daughter, she was a high school volleyball coach who lived in California. Dylan and his wife got a call at 5:00 AM on a weekend. He said he knew it had to be bad news. They were told to come to California immediately, that his daughter had been hit by a drunk driver. He took his ailing wife and they boarded the first flight out of Dallas to California. His wife has Lupus and heart problems. When they got there, his daughter was laying there in the bed looking lifeless. He asked the doctor what her condition was and he did some basic tests and said nothing. They waited in the room 24-hrs and decided to confront the doctor. The doctor said they had to keep her for 72-hrs. Dylan found out later that his daughter was already dead and had been on life support. I guess that explained all the tubes. He went on to explain the vents that precede this dilemma. His daughter was out of school for summer. She was supposed to be coming home to Dallas in two weeks. I don’t remember his daughter’s name. Well she had gone out to lunch at a restaurant with some friends. They finished and were outside the restaurant chatting… Meanwhile, Tonya just left the restaurant. She had a designated driver but took the keys from her friend and decided to drive. She left from the same restaurant as Dylan’s daughter. She got in the car, revved up and went over the median. She was speeding towards Dylan’s daughter and her friends. The other ladies jumped one way, and Dylan’s daughter jumped in the wrong direction. Because two seconds later, his daughter’s skull was smashed across the pavement. Dylan received a letter a couple of months later from a by-stander that saw the whole thing. She said that his daughter had died on the spot and the ambulance had tried to revive her when they got there. Tonya, received a free ride to jail, placed a bond of $75,000 and paid a lawyer $27,000. She went to trial about a year and a half later and got 6 years in jail. Dylan and his wife were never the same. His wife died from lupus after several heart complications, several years later. He has tried to commit suicide twice but hasn’t succeeded… He said Lupus didn’t kill his wife; she died from “A Broken Heart!” Think twice before you drink and drive!
Mrs. Hunter: 58 years old… Caucasian female… Nurse…
Misty Don Hunter was 21 and would be 22 on January 4th 2002. On the night of December 5th 2001, Misty hugged her mother tightly before she left for Durant, Oklahoma with her friend African-American friend Toni. She told her mother she didn’t want to go but she had promised Toni she would drive her to the party in Durant. Mrs. Hunter went to sleep that night and woke up at about 7 am the next morning. She couldn’t go back to sleep. She said she knew her daughter was dead and was lying on highway TX-121. She wanted to go there; put on her robe, found her keys and ran to the door. Her car was blocked in by her foster-son’s car on one side and the other side was Toni’s car but she couldn’t find the keys. She ran to her foster-son’s room and tried to wake him. Knowing him, she said he could sleep through a tornado! She went back and laid in bed, keys and purse in hand. About two hours later, her foster-son’s wife came to her room and told her that two officers were at the door. The younger officer looked very young, he probably was about 18 and it looked like it was his first notification/visit, cos he broke down and cried while delivering the news of her daughter’s death to her. The older officer took over and told her that there was another lady in the passenger seat. She was also dead! As she stood there staring at the officer in shock, one of Toni’s sons walked up to her and said “Where is mama?” He was five! Later she was told that Misty and Toni had left the party at about 2:30 am and were headed back home. As soon as they merged unto the highway, they got rammed in by a drunk driver. Toni was very tiny; she was 4’3 and weighed about 98lbs. The very sudden impact of her airbag smashed her against the seat. It busted the top of her head wide open. Misty on the other hand was about 5’3 and a 125lbs. Her head snapped back from the impact and broke her neck. Mrs. Hunter was crying inaudibly by this time and I looked around and a couple of mothers around me were crying too. Well the police couldn’t find Toni’s family. Mrs. Hunter said they lived in San Antonio but her car was registered in her father’s name. They were able to track them down at about 12:30 pm that afternoon and inform them of this disheartening news. Mrs. Hunter was called to go to the morgue and identify her daughter. They prepared Misty and she was lying on her side in a fetal position with both hands clasped together under her head. Mrs. Hunter was wailing and begged to take Misty home. She said she was a nurse and she could take care of her and nurse her back to health. She finished with saying, I had only one daughter! I wanted grandkids! Mothers are not supposed to bury their children; it’s supposed to be the other way around. She has not been the same ever since. She is asthmatic… Had some complications at work and was told to go to the hospital. She got there and sat in her car and begged God to take her life but remembered her daughter’s warning that if anyone of them died before the other, the other must go on living. So she opened the door to the hospital walked in and got treatment. She also has one son, two step-sons and two foster-sons… Toni’s two sons now live with their father Brandon, she never gets to see them anymore…
Thomas Jones: African-American male… Ex-Police Officer (11yrs) and State Trooper (10yrs)…
Seen it all; heard it all!!! He was at a bar one night, talking to the bouncer at the door and noticed someone in the backseat of his patrol car. He walked up to the car, opened the back door and this guy yelled at him “Taxi! Take me to Fort Hood!” The police officer looked at the man and said this is not a taxi, don’t you see the white and black and big lights on top of the car? He asked the man, are you drunk? The man replied, yes! I parked my car, I can’t drive and I getting a taxi, obviously so come on! He told the man to step out of the car, patted him down and felt his keys in his pocket. He asked the man to show him his car. They walked around the building to the parking lot and the man pointed at his car. Mr. Thomas took him to Fort Hood that night because he made the right choice. As soon as they got to Fort Hood, the man pointed to a building, not sure if it was his but the police officer dropped him off there. Make the right choice!
Couple of Facts!
- The legal BAC (Blood Alcohol Content) in all states is 0.08%
- Every 45 minutes, someone dies because of a drunk driver.
- If you are arrested for DWI, your license will immediately be suspended.
- If you weigh about 150lbs; at three and a half drinks or three beers and you are at limit! (Check a BAC calculator online for more info)
- The only way to sober up is time! No cold showers, eating or ten bottles of water! Alcohol leaves the body at 0.015% per hour! (Do the Math!)
There’s so much to lose!!!
- jail time
- court costs
- loss of job/loss of income
- attorneys fees
- increased insurance rates
- car impound and towing fees
- loss of driving privileges
- cost of drivers education classes
- cost and inconvenience of ignition interlock device installed on car
- community service time
- and the worst consequence of drunk driving is injuring or killing someone